If your child is jealous, the reason might be you compared them to others consistently-Parenting is the toughest task but at the same time most loved thing ever. Sometimes it’s really stressful but it completes us.

The doctor on the delivery table always asks the mother to push the baby out into this world. Makes me think, this is probably when the word “PUSH” gets into the existence between parents and child. And parents don’t know when, where and how to stop Pushing!! Parents are his first teachers and they are the ones who plays a major role in shaping his behaviour and personality because a child’s mind is a clean slate. Unfortunately, Parents are also the ones who start “expecting” from a child as soon he is born and “Push” him till he achieves those expectations up to their mark. ” Why is my toddler so hyper active while my neighbour’s kid is so calm and composed?” Once the child starts schooling, this peer pressure, competition and comparison has no end ” I want my child to get a first prize in running competition.” ” I want my child to score better in all the subjects than Sharma ji’s son.”

We are sometimes impossible and difficult to comprehend. We often forget that not all five fingers of our hand are same. In fact, no two fingers are alike. Similarly, every child is unique and different. Each child has his/her own individuality and has their own skills, talents and interests. Never underestimate the power of a child. Never compare your child to other children. In doing so, you are making his friend his enemy, putting his self-esteem down and letting the jealousy factor up in him. So just set them free to let them develop their own skills and abilities as per their interests. They should not feel that they have to be more like their own sibling, cousin or your friend’s child. Just stop living your dreams through them and encourage them to believe in themselves, and help them discover their own abilities. Most important be proud of what they are by respecting their individuality.

We are a friend, supporter and guide for our child. Parenthood isn’t a competition, and you don’t have to show other parents how much better your child is, or worry that other children are doing better than your own.

Well, the board exams will be going to start soon.

If your child does get top marks, then kudos…!! If they don’t perform well, I request kindly don’t take away their self-confidence from them. Tell them it’s ok, it’s just an exam. They have to face much bigger things in life. Tell them whatever they score, you still love them and will not judge and compare them with others. Parents please remember amongst the students who have given the exams is a musician who doesn’t need to understand mathematics. There’s a sportsperson whose physical fitness is more important than the Newton’s laws in Physics. There’s an entrepreneur whose management skills is more important than the litmus paper turning pink in chemistry practical’s.    

Most significant, guide them with good values and show them the perspective of ethics which will help them grow into good human beings. After all the world is in need of good human beings and not racing robots!! What say?

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If your child is jealous, the reason might be you compared them to others consistently.


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About Akansha Bansal

Post graduate in Masters of Business Administration from Panjab University, Chandigarh. She live with a notion “SIMPLE LIVING, HIGH THINKING” and have an optimistic approach towards life. Always eager to learn new things... She loves to write blogs on parenting. She is the Co-founder of "Budding Star".

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