IF YOUR CHILD IS LYING, IT MEANS YOU OVERREACTED TO THE MISTAKES IN THE PAST || BUDDING STAR

Have your kids ever looked you straight in the eye and lied?

So what kind of negative emotions come into your mind then??

A sense of betrayal… How could my little pumpkin lie to me when he/she even doesn’t know the spelling of a lie too?

Insecurities… What am I doing wrong that my baby feels the need to lie?

Worry… Will she/he ever stop lying? Will we ever have a trusting relationship?

Fear… What if my kid gets in real trouble someday and lies to me about it and I can’t help him/her?

And on and on our mind races.

Now just think & look back when you have yelled on the top of your voice on him/her and gave him the punishment for making any mistake. Just because your baby told the truth last time what he/she actually did (whatever the mistake or circumstances or situations) & you have OVERREACTED on that, so now just be ready to face all the negative emotions described above every time. Because you have made him/her learn that truth always lead to punishment or yelling or anger. And he/she has also learned that never to say truth in lifetime from your OVERREACTING.

I think one of the keys to success is building the connection with your child is to parent with empathy and not anger. By keeping our calm, and empathizing with them in these situations, we can build the kind of relationship that makes it easier for them to tell us the truth in the future. Love is the only language which goes direct in their brain. Actually most of the time parents forget about the age gap before giving lecture to their kids. You need to invest your time more than your money to raise them.

Well, most children lie because they are afraid. They are afraid of what you will say or do to them when they tell the truth (i.e. yelling and punishment). At a young age they may even get confused about what they are being punished for. Think about it. Child tells truth, child gets punished. A logical conclusion is that they are being punished for the act of telling the truth, not the original offense.

So my dear parents just stay calm, avoid setting him/her up, empathize with them, give kudos for honesty, forgive them easily, lead by example and most important teach the art of apology to your little bundle of joy. Trust me on this that next time he/she won’t be afraid to tell the truth.And when they need you they will be able to come to you for guidance, rather than shut you out and get stuck trying to navigate difficult situations on their own in mere future.

Oh, another important thing–if we can’t shape up, there’s no point expecting our kids to shape up either. Remember they’re watching us, everything minute of every day, and learn more from how we behave than from what we tell them about how to behave!

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Post graduate in Masters of Business Administration from Panjab University, Chandigarh. She live with a notion “SIMPLE LIVING, HIGH THINKING” and have an optimistic approach towards life. Always eager to learn new things... She loves to write blogs on parenting. She is the Co-founder of "Budding Star".

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